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Monthly Archives: December 2016

The Alpha Woman 


In a man’s world …There are very few things that are as breathtaking and stunning as an alpha female .Her poised sense of self and her kind yet firm ways are a masterful thing to behold .While others may lack courage and direction in life ,the alpha woman knows exactly who she is,what she wants ,and how to get it.
    Funny enough ,Alpha females are all around us (probably less appreciated or worse stigmatized ).There’s a good chance you know one or that you’re one .

Below are some characteristics of an Alpha Female : 

  • She’s strongminded : If she’s got a plan,she won’t quit until its achieved 
  • She takes charge of situations 
  • She’s a loner : She’s not dependent on friends or family for motivation or encouragement .it comes from within .
  • She always has her eyes on the prize : always looking forward to the next project.
  • She’s not afraid to threaten ,though the threat may not be accompanied by the baring of teeth or the ”cat fight” stance.She’d make it very clear that she’s not to be tampered with .
  • She won’t stand for arguments.
  • She’s sweet when she has to be : she has charm and knows when and how to turn it on .
  • Personal success dominates her life. 
  • She knows there’s a difference between wanting to be liked by everyone and treating everyone with class and respect 
  • She’s no pushover…if the situation calls for it,she’s unafraid to give people the harsh truth they might not want to hear .
  • She’s got her own sense of style …  She doesn’t feel the need to buy into the society’s ridiculous expectations of what one should wear ,how one should look ..etc
  • She knows the easiest thing in the world to do is to judge another woman and make comparisons out of insecurity .Therefore,she’s mindful of this and makes every effort not to be intimidated by another woman’s beauty,achievements or success .
  • She knows how to walk away from relationships that are harmful .Not just romantic relationships alone but also  friendships ,work contacts etc.
  • She knows how to deal with her emotions and puts them into perspective .
  • She doesn’t believe in using people for selfishly motivated gains .

How to become an Alpha Female (if you ain’t one already)

  1. Work to become comfortable in your skin  This can never be overemphasized ..Don’t wish to be somebody else.Learn to love you the way you are .God couldn’t have created you any better .Your height,your complexion,your facial and bodily features are perfect the way the are ..Appreciate that fact
  2. Don’t be afraid to use eye contact occasionally making eye contact is a strong confident booster …it puts you out as one who’s not afraid .
  3. Be nice   : Don’t confuse an alpha female’s attitude with a bitchy attitude. Shouting orders and purposely degrading/downgrading others are not clever power tools 
  4. Don’t be arrogant : confidence does not equate to arrogance .Announcing your skills alone does not make you an Alpha Female ,proving your skill will..Like Magaret Thatcher said ”Being powerful is like being a lady,if you have to tell people you are ,you aren’t.”
  5. Live with purpose :  develop clear goals for your life and learn to persevere regardless of the circumstances or trails that comes with achieving them .
  6. Understand the importance of balance: one needs balance in all aspects of life (physical,mental,spiritual) ..
  7. Learn how to love : though it might be true that most Alpha Females are self sufficient and have no capacity for love ,strive to be different .learn to love and appreciate people .it might not come easy but with practice ,it is achievable .
  8. Be an uncontrollable risk taker : understand that there’s no life worth living without risk .what others see as reckless, see it as an opportunity for stepping out of your comfort zone . Do not wait for opportunities to come your way,​grab them .
  9. Never be afraid of being alone : don’t let the fear of being alone push you into the arms of the wrong people .Be comfortable in your aloneness and celebrate it while you can .

                      Myths surrounding ”the Alpha Female”

  • For reasons that are already obvious, marriage might be difficult for the Alpha female. And because the Alpha Female harbors a fear of being lumped together with the rest of the weak,she’d avoid falling into the traditional wife,mother roles. If the Alpha Female has already established a family ,she’d likely spend less time with her children than an average mother . Because of this, she may have to endure the ”bad mother” accusations.
  • Because the Alpha Female is strong ,opinionated and unlikely to endure compromise, men may either avoid her or withdraw from her( particularly men with low self esteem). 
  • Oftentimes,many of the Alpha Females relationships are notably devoid of emotions .She’d maintain ties that promote success but will rarely form any type of relationship for the sake of love or comradeship alone . 

                        For this reasons ,Women throughout history have learned to stifle their  Alpha tendencies in favor of more traditional and safer roles .This shouldn’t be so. 

                          Finally, Our society is a pro at setting rules , at forcing people to follow them and at  threatening them by giving them a glimpse of what might dawn upon them if they don’t play by those rules ..Don’t be cowed into becoming a lesser version of yourself . .Don’t hide ”that inner fierceness ”.. understand that your awesomeness will not be generally received by the rest of the world . Lemons will be thrown at you once in a while .Not every human you meet will give you pleasant memories .Don’t let this deter you .let the ”ALPHA”  in you come out. strive to become that better person you know you are and watch the world celebrate you.

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